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OMG what does this so mean? hehe got your attention by sounding like a teenie??
I'm 23 and I have a question!
The other day I emailed a friend of mine who's 5yrs older than me, like a brother to me and single. I said in the email that my younger mormon friend said that he wanted to have sex with me. I told him I left him. My 28yr old guy friend emailed me back right away getting all defensive. He asked me if I'm alright and says he cares about my welfare and that I should report it or something.
I didn't say he raped me!! I said that he wanted to have sex with me is all. I didn't say anything about us having sex. We didn't! I'm still a virgin!
So what does it mean when a guy gets all defensive like this? | | Either a very strong big brother instinct, or he's jealous that another guy hit on you. | I know i've asked this 15 minutes ago but am i really interfering? ok, in details, i've been seeing this guy for 2 years on and off.. off more than on i must say lol. we just became officially boyfriend and girlfriend a week and three days ago.
he said he has fallen for me, and yes it's true because when he was with his ex, she came to fight me that her boyfriend was always talking about me nowadays and when they had sex, he called my name (we've never had sex before though, im a virgin) and i wasnt speaking to him at that time and so their relationship went downhill (last month).
his parents split up two months ago. he's 21, the oldest of 5..15yrs, 11 years and twins of 8 years.
since their dad walked out on them he's been the only one taking care of the house. it's been pretty tight for him, now their demands ARE GETTING TOO MUCH.. just in the space of 2 months he's got them EVERY thing they asked for.
His mum suffers from clinical depression so she cant work. i told him to reduce the amount of things he buys for them just a little bit but he told me off. i mean, he increased his hours from 8 to 12 hours work everyday.
i just wanted to help, but we ended up having a row over it for 30 minutes before we made up and i said i won't talk about it.
i don't want to interfere with it cos he's really nice and caring, but he spends too much..even with the recession thing which affected him alot.
what should i do ? i just want him to get the important things for his younger ones, but they're not his guys, so he should cut down just a teenie weenie bit.
im sure they appreciate it, and i dont want to spoil what we've got, but i hope you see things from my point of view.
please help. thanks | | I see what you are trying to say,and it shows that you are a caring person,but you need to give him a little space, and try to understand that they are his guy brothers, and he is only trying to make up for the way their dad just left them,and that is a hard thing to do,brothers have a really tight love for each other,and whether they show it or not,having a parent walk out is a pretty big obstacle to over come,just give him a few months to get back in the groove of things ,then try to talk to him again,but keep in mind that what he is doing for his family,is by far the right thing to do,and it shows that he is not only a good person,but a good son and brother,so cut him some slack,and be thankful that you have a good person that you can call your boy friend,a lot of guys would not do what he is doing for his family,and me personally i commend him for what he is doing,and i wish there was more like him.so just hang tight for a little while and let him get adjusted to being the man of the house,then talk to him about it,he most likely will not change his mind,but if he likes you he will listen to you and take what you are trying to tell him to heart,he might even admire you for it,just remember it takes time for him to adjust to being the sole provider,and i wish him luck in the future,and you too,hope this helps you some. | Am i interfering with his family? what should i do? please i need your help!? ok, in details,i'm 18, i've been seeing this guy for 2 years on and off.. off more than on i must say lol. we just became officially boyfriend and girlfriend a week and three days ago.
he said he has fallen for me, and yes it's true because when he was with his ex, she came to fight me that her boyfriend was always talking about me nowadays and when they had sex, he called my name (we've never had sex before though, im a virgin) and i wasnt speaking to him at that time and so their relationship went downhill (last month). and he wrote me a song, this easter holidays, he's taken me to a lot of places i've never been before and he's really nice.. but his niceness goes a bit overboard most times.
his parents split up two months ago. he's 21, the oldest of 5..15yrs, 11 years and twins of 8 years who doesnt help around the house AT ALL..and he says they are only little and don't know what is going on..at that age, i knew what was happening..(not trying to compare though but it's a little frustrating)
since their dad walked out on them he's been the only one taking care of the house. it's been pretty tight for him, now their demands ARE GETTING TOO MUCH.. just in the space of 2 months he's got them EVERY thing they asked for.
His mum suffers from clinical depression so she cant work. i told him to reduce the amount of things he buys for them just a little bit but he told me off, he really snapped at me. i mean, he increased his hours from 8 to 12 hours work everyday and we don't even get much quality time together cos he's always exhausted. i tried explaining that the workload was too much, i care about him a lot, even when i wasn't speaking to him i always asked about him from his friends.
i just wanted to help, but we ended up having a row over it for 30 minutes before we made up and i said i won't talk about it but he should think about it. he's a nice guy but he's strong minded and doesn't change his thoughts easily (knowing him).
i don't want to interfere with it cos he's really nice and caring, but he spends too much..even with the recession thing which affected him a hell of a lot.
what should i do ? i just want him to get the important things for his younger ones, they're not his guys so he should cut down just a teenie weenie bit.
im sure they appreciate it but it's too much (just last night he bought his 15 year old brother a new wii set, he had an old one). i dont want to spoil what we've got, but i hope you see things from my point of view that i just care about him but now i'm confused, if i leave him to do what he's doing at this rate, he'll be bankrupt, dry, CAPOOT. lol and if i dont, i feel he might leave me..and i like him so much, it'd hurt if he did.
please help. thanks | You're interfering in his family affairs.
He likes you and calls your name when with another woman, he goes overboard on treating you.
He feels like he should be the "man of the house" now his Dad has deserted them and his mother is ill.
He sounds like a loving caring guy and very nurturing.
If you don't want him to burn himself out and want more time with him, then help him and don't criticize. You could do some shopping or chores around the house, help make dinner and enjoy your time with him while doing it.
Your relationship could become stonger and who knows what the future may have in store for you. | Ive asked this before, i need more answers.. am i interfering with his family? please i need your advice.? ok, in details,i'm 18, i've been seeing this guy for 2 years on and off.. off more than on i must say lol. we just became officially boyfriend and girlfriend a week and three days ago.
he said he has fallen for me, and yes it's true because when he was with his ex, she came to fight me that her boyfriend was always talking about me nowadays and when they had sex, he called my name (we've never had sex before though, im a virgin) and i wasnt speaking to him at that time and so their relationship went downhill (last month). and he wrote me a song, this easter holidays, he's taken me to a lot of places i've never been before and he's really nice.. but his niceness goes a bit overboard most times.
his parents split up two months ago. he's 21, the oldest of 5..15yrs, 11 years and twins of 8 years who doesnt help around the house AT ALL..and he says they are only little and don't know what is going on..at that age, i knew what was happening..(not trying to compare though but it's a little frustrating)
since their dad walked out on them he's been the only one taking care of the house. it's been pretty tight for him, now their demands ARE GETTING TOO MUCH.. just in the space of 2 months he's got them EVERY thing they asked for.
His mum suffers from clinical depression so she cant work. i help calm her down all the time cos she gets aggressive alot. i also help clean the house that the little ones mess up ALL THE TIME..(i found food under the chair yesterday :S and im sure its the 15yr old that did it..imagine that!) i told him to reduce the amount of things he buys for them just a little bit but he told me off, he really snapped at me. i mean, he increased his hours from 8 to 12 hours work everyday and we don't even get much quality time together cos he's always exhausted. i tried explaining that the workload was too much, i care about him a lot, even when i wasn't speaking to him i always asked about him from his friends.
i just wanted to help, but we ended up having a row over it for 30 minutes before we made up and i said i won't talk about it but he should think about it. he's a nice guy but he's strong minded and doesn't change his thoughts easily (knowing him).
i don't want to interfere with it cos he's really nice and caring, but he spends too much..even with the recession thing which affected him a hell of a lot.
what should i do ? i just want him to get the important things for his younger ones, they're not his guys so he should cut down just a teenie weenie bit.
im sure they appreciate it but it's too much (just last night he bought his 15 year old brother a new wii set, he had an old one). i dont want to spoil what we've got, but i hope you see things from my point of view that i just care about him but now i'm confused, if i leave him to do what he's doing at this rate, he'll be bankrupt, dry, CAPOOT. lol and if i dont, i feel he might leave me..and i like him so much, it'd hurt if he did.
please help. thanks | Yeah I do understand where your coming from but at the end of the days theyre his family and he ll do anything for them. I know your right but the best thing you can do is to step back let him do what he has to do and then be there for him when it goes wrong. He'll love you all the more for not being all 'i told you so' to him. Youve had your say and he hasnt listened, so thats all you can do for now
Hope it all works out :) |
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